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FOR the LADIES "HOw to make your man BEHAVE":10 GOOD TIPS FOR WOMEN...

Let's face it, there are some things men do that drive women crazy; whether it's sharing bodily noises, saying inappropriate things or doing things that simply don't make sense. What's a girl to do? Well, these ten good tips for women on how to get your man to behave, should help.

1 - Let him know what you can tolerate and what you can't. Sometimes women seem to think that their man should be able to read their minds, or should somehow know what everyone considers reasonable. This is not a good way to get what you want out of your man. If he does something that bothers you, tell him, and then explain why it bothers you. If he cares about you at all, he just might try to avoid doing such things again in the future.

2 - Reward him for improvement. Yes, there are things you can do in the bedroom that might become an incentive for him, but there are other things too. Like saying something nice when he behaves the way you were hoping. Or touching him, and smiling. Little things can mean a lot and make big differences.

3 - Listen to his reasoning. Sometimes men actually have reasonable reasons for the things they do. He may have a medical condition you don't know about, for example. At any rate, it sure can't hurt to simply ask him why he does what he does, or says what he says. If he has a good reason, maybe there is some way you can work with him to get over it, or maybe, god forbid, you could cut him some slack.

4 - Compromise. If you have something you'd really like him to give up, perhaps there is something you could give up in return. Or perhaps the opposite could work, you could agree to do such and such if he would agree to stop doing something else.

5 - Remember you're not his boss. If you try to tell him what to do, you're only asking for trouble. You are not his parent or boss. Certainly your opinions and feelings matter, but that doesn't give you reason to bark orders or toss out invectives simply because you don't like something.

6 - Behave yourself. If you want him to behave, you might think about your own behavior first. While it's probably true that the things he does are not the same as the things you do, he would probably still find them objectionable all the same. So, remember, what's good for the goose... etc.

7 - Treat him with respect. Always remember that your man is not a child. And he's not a miscreant. He's a man with grown-up feelings and pride. Always treat him with respect, even if you think he doesn't deserve it. You'll get much better results.

8 - Get over yourself. Sometimes women start to think that they are better than their man simply because they don't do the kinds of things that their men do. This kind of thinking can lead you down a path to where you're feeling superior and looking down on your man. This is a position that will never work. In fact, what you're likely to get is a defensive man that slowly over time, likes you less and less.

9 - Explain how it comes across to you. Sometimes men don't really understand what the impact of their words or actions has on their women. So, rather than telling them you hate this or that, tell them how it makes you feel, or what it does to your own self image. Be honest, with him, and yourself. You may even find that some of your concerns are nothing more than petty grievances.

10 - Ask him. One thing that a lot of women overlook, is simply asking their man in a polite and respectful way, to stop doing or saying certain things that they find objectionable. If you haven't already done so, give it try. You may find he surprises you. 

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