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Top 5 Adult Costumes for 2011

The 2011 Halloween season is nearly upon us, and it is the time to get your adult costumes ready for their big debut. Every Halloween season brings forward different themes, popular trends, and evolving costume styles. To help you achieve the best look for this year’s Halloween, we have gathered up the top five adult costumes of the season.

Superheroes: If there is one thing that 2011 is known for, it is its plethora of superhero movies. Green Lantern, Captain America, Thor, and so many more adult superhero costumes have appeared on the silver screen. All of these superheroes are now yours to enjoy for the Halloween season. Not only are all of these superhero costumes iconic and easily recognized, but they are also affordable and detailed. No one will be wondering, “Who are you supposed to be?”

The Walking Dead: Halloween loves nothing more than zombie television shows, especially one as amazing as The Walking Dead. While The Walking Dead story originally started in the graphic novel world, it transitioned nicely into the world of film, and the show is due to come back for a second season. Utilize these grotesque masks and costumes to capture the intensity of the television show. Plus, everyone enjoys zombies.

Harry Potter: The last of the Harry Potter movies passed only months before Halloween, but the astonishment of this unique story is sure to keep people entertained for years. Bring out your passion of the Harry Potter series with our line of Harry Potter costumes, then see how many muggles stare in astonishment of your wizarding ways. From the wands to the wizard clothes, everything is here to help you achieve a deeper immersion into the world of Harry Potter.

Lady Gaga: The intensity of Lady Gaga costumes make them ideal for anyone looking to enjoy a wild Halloween experience. Her personality seeps into her fashion, which seek to further enhance her presence. All of these factors combine into your Halloween costume, creating an intensely unique Halloween costume. Whether you want to party like a rock star or trick-or-treat in true pop fashion, Lady Gaga adult costumes are perfect for your Halloween experience.

Star Wars: Even the epic story of Harry Potter cannot compete with the timeless classic of Star Wars costumes, and now you can bring the science fiction films straight into your Halloween. These Star Wars adult costumes range from the original three movies to the latest animated series, including everything in between.

How to Survive in an Unhappy Workplace


When you don't like your job, going to work every day can be a challenge. Your problem might be with a bad manager, that you constantly feel stretched to the breaking point, or that you are resentful about taking a pay cut. Or, the whole environment may just feel toxic. You might need to stay in your job because it provides health benefits, or maybe you're only staying while you look for another position. Whatever your reasons for being unhappy, you need to maintain your professionalism and prevent a bad attitude from sabotaging you.

What the Experts Say

Timothy Butler, Senior Fellow and Director of Career Development Programs at Harvard Business School and author of Getting Unstuck: How Dead Ends Become New Paths, believes there's something elemental about the statement 'I'm unhappy at work.'" Butler, whose research focuses on personality structure and work satisfaction, says that to understand your unhappiness, you need to turn towards that feeling of unhappiness, experience it in a deep way, and not try to solve things too quickly. He suggests observing the feelings and not expecting anything. You may just find yourself at a frontier, considering what you're going to do next. "The existential nature of unhappiness is a wake-up call," Butler says. "There's some part of the self that is not being heard, that wants your attention, and that's the issue."


Similarly, Joe Mosca, an associate professor in the Leon Hess Business School at Monmouth University, who specializes in human resources management and organizational behavior, agrees that looking within is the first step. "That may be hard for some people to hear," he suggests, because while it's true that sometimes people just don't match well with their jobs, employees tend to rationalize their job dissatisfaction rather than consider that they may be part of the problem. But if you are part of the problem, you may be part of the solution, too.


Tammy Erickson, a workplace expert and author of Plugged In:The Generation Y Guide to Thriving at Work, advises that if you're unhappy, see if you can upgrade your contribution to the company, or find a way to be more creative about your job. She once performed very dull work in a book bindery but avoided becoming negative about the job by finding a way to make it less boring. Erickson was "interested in the process" and tried completing the tasks in a different order, which made the work quicker, easier, and less monotonous. "No work is uninteresting if you can think how to do it differently," she says.


That's not to say unhappy workers don't have valid complaints. One thing you don't want to do, however, is let your feelings boil over at work.


Signs That You Need to Take Action

Perhaps you've heard of someone who was so unhappy he quit on the spot or blew up at a boss. Losing control at work helps no one and may have repercussions in both your current job and in the future — you never know when you'll work with one of your current colleagues again.


Indications that you need to address your emotions may be physical or behavioral, explains Catherine McCarthy, a clinical psychologist and COO of The Energy Project, an organizational consulting firm. The signs include feeling distracted, sluggish, angry or irritable, not sleeping well or sleeping excessively, relying on alcohol or food to comfort yourself, and withdrawing from friends and activities. All may indicate underlying depression or anxiety, which you shouldn't ignore.


If you feel you have nowhere to turn, are about to burst, or are depressed, one option is to seek out your company's Employee Assistance Program (EAP) if it has one, adds McCarthy. Some EAPs will help you find a counselor, and all are bound by healthcare and workplace laws to keep your request confidential.


There are also things you can try to change in your approach to your job. Consider these solutions for surviving and even thriving in a job that's less than optimal:


1. Face the reality head-on. China Gorman, chief global member engagement officer of the Society for Human Resource Management (SHRM) reminds workers that during a recession or slow recovery, people at all levels experience the pain. Such an economic climate makes it more difficult to leave a job, but it doesn't mean you should feel stuck. Erickson advises that you "Accept that this job is not where you want to be, even if you can't make a change today. But begin taking steps to change things." McCarthy seconds this advice. "Practice radical acceptance," she says. "Tell yourself, 'This is where I am, this is where I'm going to be for a certain amount of time.' You have more control over how you think than you realize." Understand what you're feeling, and that if you show up to work irritated, it affects your performance.


2. Develop a plan. Be proactive. Brainstorm with trusted friends and family members about your ideas. If there's something you'd like to change, decide whether your boss is approachable and if so, the best tactics to use. If you have suggestions, discuss how they will improve your performance as well as others'. The Human Resources department may also be able to help in some way, suggests Gorman, from helping you find a job within the company you're better suited for, to assisting with work/life balance.


You could also try learning a new skill. At the very least, it may help you prepare for another job. It can also lift your spirits and lead to new possibilities at your current job. If your problem is with your boss, Gorman offers advice from personal experience. She once had a boss who was smart and a strategic thinker, but terribly lacking in people skills. Gorman decided to be the boss she wished she'd had. "I made a list of what not to say, for example, and developed skills I still use today," she says.


Finally, consider looking outside your job for fulfillment. Having an outside interest or two gives you another outlet and an activity to look forward to.


3. Find (or Accentuate) the positive. Make a list of the good points about your job, advises McCarthy. Gorman calls this a benefit log. You may be thankful to have healthcare and other benefits. You may like your coworkers, or the fact that you have a short commute. Maybe there's a great gym on-site, or you enjoy the opportunity for travel or the mentoring you do. Listing what you do like about your job will help shift your perception and keep you from feeling so trapped. If you don't take responsibility, "it will hurt your performance, erode your satisfaction further, and make your time at the job worse," she says.


Principles to Remember




Differentiate between what you can change and what you can't.

Take responsibility for making a change.

Focus on making the best of a bad situation.



Assume nothing will ever change.

Allow negative thoughts to rule you.

Go it alone.

Case Study #1: Finding Satisfaction in Some Part of Your Job

Elizabeth Roman (not her real name) had been head of marketing at a professional services firm in New York for four years when she fell out of favor with her boss. He had always given her good performance reviews, so she was stunned the day he let her know that he had little respect for her work.


After that conversation, Roman "hated going to work every day." She resolved to find a new job, but in the meantime, she wanted to find some ways to make her job bearable. "First, I pushed myself to perform at the highest level possible after that conversation so he'd have no further ammunition against me," she said. Along with that, she came up with a creative project for attracting clients, suggested it to her boss, and threw herself into organizing it with her staff. Roman also contacted a mentor at another firm who served as a sounding board and lifted her spirits. She never betrayed her boss and never let her feelings affect her relationship with her employees. When she finally found another position and resigned, she mustered the grace to thank her boss for all he had taught her.


Case Study #2: Finding Satisfaction Outside of Work

Allen Smith (not his real name) is a technologist at consulting giant Bain who became frustrated with what he saw as a lack of a career path. "I also felt like my manager didn't understand what I needed day to day to do my job," he says.

by Pat Olsen

But he liked the people he worked with, so he did some soul-searching, asking himself whether he was unhappy because of someone else or because of his own attitude. He decided it was the latter. Smith had been toying with the idea of starting a business, and he thought if he could do it on the side, it would affect his outlook. He was right.


He was given permission to work three days a week, which allowed him to start the part-time property management business he envisioned. "With a reduced work week, regular chats with my manager, and a focus outside of work, I've become much happier about my time here," he says. In turn, working fewer hours helped reduce his department's budget.



How to Love

Love is both an action and a feeling. The action of love generates a blissful feeling called by the same name. When the action stops, the blissful feeling is replaced with pain. There is a similar feeling called lust which may be confused with love. You need to decipher between the two in order to have a healthy heart. Every person is capable of great love (and its opposite, fear, which generates all painful emotions such as hate, greed and jealousy).

While there are many different ways to define love and there are many different ways to love someone (or even yourself), here is a general guide to loving.


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  1. 1
    Say it.
     Say it.
    Say it. When you say the words "I Love You", they should carry with them the desire to show someone that you love them, not what you simply want to feel. When you say it, make sure you really mean it and are willing to do anything for that special person.

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  2. 2
    Empathize. Put yourself in someone else's shoes. Rather than impose your own expectations or attempt to control them, to understand how they feel, where they come from, and who they are. Realize how they could also love you back just as well.
  3. 3
    Love unconditionally. If you cannot love another person without attaching stipulations, then it is not love at all, but deep-seated opportunism (one who makes the most of an advantage, often unmindful of others). If your interest is not in the other person as such, but rather in how that person can enhance your experience of life, then it is not unconditional. If you have no intention of improving that person’s life, or allowing that person to be themselves and accepting them as they are, and not who you want them to be, then you are not striving to love them unconditionally.
  4. 4
    Expect nothing in return. That doesn't mean you should allow someone to mistreat or undervalue you. It means that giving love does not guarantee receiving love. Try loving just for the sake of love. Realize that someone may have a different way of showing his or her love for you; do not expect to be loved back in exactly the same way.
  5. 5
    Realize it can be lost.
     Realize it can be lost.
    Realize it can be lost. If you realize that you can lose the one you love, then you have a greater appreciationof what you have. Think how lucky you are to have someone to love. Don't make an idol of the person you love. This will place them under undue pressure and will likely result in you losing them.
  6. 6
    Never stop loving. Even if you have been hurt before you should not stop giving love.

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  • It does not make you a bad person to desire someone else's love, even if they do not love you. However, to truly love someone, you must let them be free. It is selfish to blame them for your feelings.
  • There are many types of relationships that involve love, but love itself is a common thread to all those relationships. For example: a mother-son relationship is different from the relationship with a best friend, and both these relationships are different from a romantic relationship. But in each of these relationships, each person loves the other (wants the best for the other). Love this the base of the pyramid. On top of the base, we can add other items such as other common interests (in the case of friends) or sex (in the case of romantic relationships). Therefore, relationships can grow and evolve but the love itself is solid and constant. It does not change.
  • Don't be ashamed to tell anyone that you love your friends as much as you love anyone else in your life.
  • You have to find someone that will suit you, someone you feel comfortable with.
  • Sometimes love is all we need
     Sometimes love is all we need
    As a word, love can be found worldwide and is often used to describe compassion and/or emotional attachment. Sometimes love songs do not accurately describe love, but rather, the absence of love, hence the sad tone of some romantic songs.
  • Accepting those you love for who they are is part of love. You also need to learn to accept yourself before you can accept another. If you cannot love yourself, how are you to love another?
  • Love genuinely. Do not compare your feelings now to what your feelings were when you were with another mate. At times, we can experience rejection.
  • Realize that love is a feeling that wikiHow can describe and attempt to assist, but ultimately, you are the one who must take action in order to discover love.
  • Do things that make the other person feel good and happy, but do not smother them with gifts and attention.
  • Consider some tips about what people in love do.
    • People in love are sensitive to each other's needs, and endeavour to meet them even when they do not feel like doing it.
    • Men and women may be equal in value but different by nature. People who truly are in love give their mates "space" to develop their potential and find their fulfillment in life.
    • Love does not brag. People who are truly in love refrain from rehearsing their good traits just to show off. Bragging in a relationship often is really defensiveness.
    • People who are truly in love do not insist that their way is best and demand that their mates give in to them.
    • People who are truly in love are considerate of each other's feelings and courteous in their actions toward one another. Sadly, sarcasm is a way of life for some couples. They ridicule each other, belittle each other and trade jibes with a fury. They may say it is all in fun, but it leaves wounds that will someday become festering sores.
    • People who are truly in love look out for their mate's best interests as much as their own. Those in love should be concerned not only about their own individual interests, but about the interests of the other as well.
    • People who are truly in love control their anger when the other displeases them. We are all human, and all humans feel anger periodically, but we only express our anger in destructive ways when we are counting on someone else to meet our needs.
    • People who truly love each other do not take pleasure in their mate's disappointments or failures.
    • People who truly love each other treat their mates with absolute trust. Some husbands and wives torment themselves with groundless suspicions. If you look for trouble you will find it every time.
    • People who truly love look forward to their relationship growing more meaningful and precious. They have hope, which is an attitude that happily anticipates the good. It isn't being blind and denying that there are problems, but it does look beyond the problems. People who truly love each other do not allow their problems to rob them of their happiness.
  • Remember there is no failure in love, because once you tell somebody whom you love, that you love him/her, then you have already succeeded in love.
  • Some friends are remembered because of their smile.



  • You must love yourself before you can love another. But before you can love yourself, you must know and understand yourself profoundly. This deep understanding of yourself will automatically lead you to love yourself (since you will become aware of your divine essence) and you will also love every other person at that same moment (because you will recognize that same divine essence in every other person).
  • There is always the risk of getting hurt (when love switches to fear), so remember to fully love and trust in your constant decision to love rather than fear.
  • Recognize that any feeling of jealousy is a clear sign of fear. Therefore the most appropriate response is to begin loving again (since we cannot love and fear at the same time).
  • Realize what you have while you have it, and care for the person you trust.
  • If something comes to an end, try to let go rather than holding on; it's for the best.
  • The idea of love is fueled by childhood fantasies. The love shown in movies, as obtainable as it may be, is rare to say the least.
  • You just may find your soulmate sooner than you intended.
  • If you feel any doubt of the love your partner has for you, make sure that your suspicions are grounded in reality. If you hurt your partner as a result of undeserved mistrust, he/she may end up doubting both your love for them and theirs for you.
  • Don't ask for love. You should receive love because your partner wants to give you love, not because you want it from your partner.
  • Do not force love. It will come in good time—perhaps not with the person you initially want, but love definitely will come if you are willing to share it with someone.


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FOR the LADIES "HOw to make your man BEHAVE":10 GOOD TIPS FOR WOMEN...

Let's face it, there are some things men do that drive women crazy; whether it's sharing bodily noises, saying inappropriate things or doing things that simply don't make sense. What's a girl to do? Well, these ten good tips for women on how to get your man to behave, should help.

1 - Let him know what you can tolerate and what you can't. Sometimes women seem to think that their man should be able to read their minds, or should somehow know what everyone considers reasonable. This is not a good way to get what you want out of your man. If he does something that bothers you, tell him, and then explain why it bothers you. If he cares about you at all, he just might try to avoid doing such things again in the future.

2 - Reward him for improvement. Yes, there are things you can do in the bedroom that might become an incentive for him, but there are other things too. Like saying something nice when he behaves the way you were hoping. Or touching him, and smiling. Little things can mean a lot and make big differences.

3 - Listen to his reasoning. Sometimes men actually have reasonable reasons for the things they do. He may have a medical condition you don't know about, for example. At any rate, it sure can't hurt to simply ask him why he does what he does, or says what he says. If he has a good reason, maybe there is some way you can work with him to get over it, or maybe, god forbid, you could cut him some slack.

4 - Compromise. If you have something you'd really like him to give up, perhaps there is something you could give up in return. Or perhaps the opposite could work, you could agree to do such and such if he would agree to stop doing something else.

5 - Remember you're not his boss. If you try to tell him what to do, you're only asking for trouble. You are not his parent or boss. Certainly your opinions and feelings matter, but that doesn't give you reason to bark orders or toss out invectives simply because you don't like something.

6 - Behave yourself. If you want him to behave, you might think about your own behavior first. While it's probably true that the things he does are not the same as the things you do, he would probably still find them objectionable all the same. So, remember, what's good for the goose... etc.

7 - Treat him with respect. Always remember that your man is not a child. And he's not a miscreant. He's a man with grown-up feelings and pride. Always treat him with respect, even if you think he doesn't deserve it. You'll get much better results.

8 - Get over yourself. Sometimes women start to think that they are better than their man simply because they don't do the kinds of things that their men do. This kind of thinking can lead you down a path to where you're feeling superior and looking down on your man. This is a position that will never work. In fact, what you're likely to get is a defensive man that slowly over time, likes you less and less.

9 - Explain how it comes across to you. Sometimes men don't really understand what the impact of their words or actions has on their women. So, rather than telling them you hate this or that, tell them how it makes you feel, or what it does to your own self image. Be honest, with him, and yourself. You may even find that some of your concerns are nothing more than petty grievances.

10 - Ask him. One thing that a lot of women overlook, is simply asking their man in a polite and respectful way, to stop doing or saying certain things that they find objectionable. If you haven't already done so, give it try. You may find he surprises you. 

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