By Molly Hall, About.com Guide
The Libra man loves to pair up, and that's why he's often one half of a notable duo. The two halves merge into a harmonious One, or at least that's the romantic ideal. When smitten, the Lover of the Zodiac wants to be together all the time, and finds partnership very natural. He's a serial monogamist. He's got an instinct for playing off others, in a pleasing way, and this makes him easy to be with. He makes friends easily, but his true desires in relationship take time to discover.
The Libra man finds himself by closely observing what's mirrored back to him in relationships. How he responds to you, depends on how you're responding to him. From the outset, if the vibe isn't there, it'll likely not get past the light friendship stage. To pique his interest, find out what he's fascinated by, and start conversations about that. Plan first dates in stimulating settings, with a lot to talk about -- museums, cultural centers, festivals.
He's an air sign, so a key to knowing if it's a match, is discovering his mind. Being on the same wavelength, in terms of preoccupations, is what creates the foundation. His leanings are toward refined living, and he's likely a bit of a metrosexual. You score points when you show that you appreciate his artful eye. This might be complimenting his home decor or clean and upscale man-style. He's Venus-ruled, and knows how to evoke a light, luxurious mood to relax and be sultry in. If you're receptive to his generous moves, he'll keep it up with the romance.
He's attracted to a mate that compliments him in every way, including aesthetically. You gotta look good together, in other words. If you're put together, healthy, sophisticated, mentally bright, socially curious, fair-minded -- these are things he values, and looks for. Libra loves love, and it's interesting to note that many born under this sign find each other. If Libra likes its reflection (in you), and finds room there for growth, it's a divine match of incredible twosome synchronicity.
To win the Libra man, don't stoop to a gossipy or lowbrow attitude. He can't handle a lot of confrontation, and could be continually flustered by a strong-willed partner. He's not particularly direct, since there's a beat in-between, as he's sizing up a situation. If he's thrown off balance too much, by an impatient date, he'll start to get surly. He's looking for closeness, but needs that mental space to do his thing, before taking action. The right partner gets this, and respects him enough not to take advantage in the pregnant pauses.
Unless he's head over hills, it may be hard to trust the Libra man's sincerity. That's because he's charming and charmed by each dazzling possibility in his orbit. He's reluctant to be claimed, wanting to stay open to the best life has to offer. But once he's found his "other half," his focus turns in to the relationship itself. He's a steady anchor for a long term pairing, always looking for ways to make it better.